A Nigerian clergyman has issued a blunt warning to married men, stressing that prolonged financial dependence on one’s wife can gradually damage the foundation of a marriage.
In a message shared while addressing issues of marriage, responsibility, and leadership in the home, the cleric stated that regardless of how loving, supportive, or spiritually mature a woman may be, consistently bearing the financial burden of the household is not without consequences.
“I don’t care how supportive or godly your wife is. If she carries the financial burden of the house for too long, it will affect the marriage. She’s not built for it,” he said.
According to him, many women experience deep emotional and mental strain when they become the primary provider, but often lack the tools to express that stress in a healthy way that strengthens the relationship. Instead, unresolved pressure can manifest in frustration, resentment, or emotional distance over time.
He also pointed out that men facing financial hardship are usually at one of the most vulnerable stages of their lives. “At that stage of a man’s life, he is extremely sensitive. Anything you say will be remembered,” the clergyman noted, adding that careless words during such periods can leave lasting scars on a man’s confidence and sense of identity.
Emphasising traditional responsibility, he urged men to be deliberate about building their financial capacity and reclaiming their role as providers in the home. According to him, leadership in marriage goes beyond love and spirituality and must include accountability and provision.
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