Explaining why she chose to walk down the aisle in holy matrimony in her husband’s church, Asaba based actress, Ruby Ojiakor has crowned her man, Moc Madu, the head of her home.
This comes after concerned followers and Nigerian feminists dragged her for wedding in her husband’s church.
Charming had reported that the actress recently tied the knot with her partner, Moc Madu, in a glamorous ceremony held at St. Philips Anglican Church — her husband’s place of worship over the weekend.
In response to those who questioned why she didn’t wed in her church, Ruby explained her decision with heartfelt clarity. She emphasized that her husband “married her in full” and is the head of their family, which made the church choice meaningful to her.
“Yes, I wedded at St. Philips Anglican Church — my husband’s church,” Ruby stated. “For those saying it should be in the woman’s church, when it’s your turn, do as it pleases you.”
She further expressed her love and respect for her husband, calling him “My King,” and asked critics to stop dragging her unnecessarily.
Ruby concluded her message with a romantic note, calling their union a “Love story written in heaven,” adding, “Two hearts… one soul. ASAONWA2025. JESUS WE LOVE YOU.”
See her full post below:
Yes I wedded at “ST PHILIPS ANGLICAN CHURCH”..
“MY HUSBAND’S CHURCH”……And for those of you saying it’s wrong, that it’s supposed to be in the woman’s church, pls when it gets to your turn, you can do as it pleases you ok……
As for me” I wedded in my husband’s church, because he married me in Full” and he’s the head of the family 🙌
My King I Love, Adore and respect so much 🙏God bless you all and stop dragging me unnecessarily 🙏
LOVE STORY WRITTEN IN HEAVEN
TWO HEARTS… ONE SOUL…
Reacting to her post, One Nzubeaa wrote, “Do what you wish but don’t act like it’s the correct thing to do. You could have done trad in his village too since he is the head of the home. Same logic applies, if you choose to do white wedding. You can’t claim to be as Catholic as you have portrayed and not know this. It’s disappointing! Anyway the important thing is that you both understand each other and did what worked for you two but please don’t make it look like it’s the right thing to do. Marry a woman from her place (village and church) then officially move her to your own part of the world.”
Another user, Faavmira wrote, “I am born and baptize in Anglican, In Oba idemili south my home town, Anglican is the dominant church. But i did my wedding in catholic (My husband’s church) went through their conversion process (cathetism class), did marriage class for 3 months. Really when e reach your turn do am where you like. I am still attending Catholic for sunday Mass, na Church my husband go, i go go”
Another follower wrote, “You all should rest,there’s something called “mixed marriage” that they wedded in Anglican doesn’t mean Ruby must become Anglican,it’s just an agreement between the husband and wife,Ruby can still return to her faith if that’s what they agreed together,why is it sounding like you guys haven’t heard of mixed marriage before?”
Another user wrote, “To each his own, but here’s something to consider: Marrying a woman who is a dedicated member of her church is not very different from marrying her from her father’s house. Just as tradition expects you to go to her father’s house, seek permission, and then take her to your home, the same principle applies if she’s deeply rooted in her church. If she serves actively or is truly committed to that spiritual community, it’s only respectful to honor that connection. You go to her church, go through the necessary steps, and then just like in the traditional setup she transitions with you to your place of worship. However, if both of you reach a mutual understanding to do otherwise, then by all means, follow the path you’ve both agreed on. The key is unity and agreement”
Another one wrote, “ou go fit finish wetin u start ??? Other women that was wedded in their own church instead of their husband’s church ⛪️ are you telling us that they are not the head of their family too ? Ruby be careful po”
One Obianujuok2 wrote, “If you are a dedicated Catholic and have a strong will as one.. it is right for your husband to wed you from your church. But then, it’s your decision to follow your husband to his church but not about paying your bride price in full. however, as long as it makes you happy that’s the point.”
Nigerian feminists often express strong reactions when a woman publicly calls her husband the “head of the home” because they see it as a reinforcement of deeply rooted patriarchal norms that have long oppressed women. In many Nigerian households, this “headship” is not symbolic but comes with unbalanced power dynamics, where the man’s word is final regardless of reason or fairness. Feminists argue that such titles often excuse male dominance and justify inequality in decision-making, financial control, and even abusive behaviors, all under the guise of cultural or religious submission. So, when a woman uses that phrase, it can feel like she’s endorsing a system that silences women’s voices and keeps them in subordinate roles.
Additionally, many Nigerian feminists are pushing for partnership and mutual respect in marriage, not hierarchy. The phrase “head of the home” suggests a chain of command rather than a team. Feminists aren’t bitter because they hate men or marriage, but because they’re frustrated by the celebration of outdated gender roles that ignore women’s agency, intellect, and leadership in the home. They believe love and leadership in a household should be shared, not assigned by gender. When society applauds a woman for surrendering to a traditional role without questioning its implications, it feels like a step backward in the fight for equality and dignity in the domestic sphere.